Guidelines for Being a Positive Player-Parent
from Volleyball USA, Winter 2000
- Cheer your player on, be supportive of him/her, console him/her,
but do it without judging him/her, the coach, officials or
- Many things will aggravate you that do not even faze your
player. Do not make something into an issue if it is not an
- Encourage your child to seek his/her own answers. Coaches
respect players who come to them and privately question their
playing time or role; it immediately indicates they want more.
- Understand the rules of the game and the coaches philosophy.
Substituting in volleyball has consequences.
- Do your physical part as a parent. Get your child to
practice on time and pick them up promptly. Demonstrating
responsibility and commitment can be incredibly effective.
- Positions and talent sometimes do not match up. Coaches
attempt to do what's best for the team, putting the best physical
mix and best "chemistry" on the floor. That may mean
that sometimes your son or daughter may be playing "out of
position" in an attempt to strengthen the team. A positive spin
by you can go a long way in helping your child adjust to a new
role. Stay positive, and maybe your child will flourish.
- If you have real concerns, and your player has attempted
unsuccessfully to work things out with the coach on his/her own,
schedule a meeting with the coach and have your child attend with
you (you may not be hearing the whole story - a common
occurrence). If you are trying to resolve a problem, help your
player by being a role model in the problem solving procedure.
- Never approach a coach with complaints after a tough game.
Wait and schedule a visit after everyone cools off. Most
coaches are highly competitive, and just like players, do not like
being confronted after tough games.
- Please think before criticizing anyone connected with your
player's club or team. Criticism is contagious and often
hurtful. The damage could be irreversible.
- Visibly show that you enjoy watching your child perform; this will
make him/her feel better about individual participation, no matter
what the role is.